My reason why written by Murni.
I find it hard to asnwer ppl’s questions as to why im still unattached. Most ppl call me picky, memilih, mengada, idealistic, high-maintenance, silly..you name it; chances are I’ve been called it.
It makes me sad sometimes, the constant questions, the pressure, the nagging, the negative remarks. But then again, I’ve come to believe that if choosing to remain single because I havent found the right one, the one that will truly make me happy is silly and stupid and makes me memilih, then I guess I dont mind being all these things.
The thing is, I dont wanna be with someone for the sake of just BEING with someone.
I’ve seen on so many occasions, ppl getting involved when their hearts aren’t into it. They are together for all the wrong reasons, and in the end they won’t last. They are unhappy and alone even when they arent alone. Do you know wht i mean?
My gf once observed me talking to a close guy friend and when my conversation with him was over, she had tears in her eyes. I asked her why she was sad, and she said in her three yr relationship, she has never, not ONCE had so much fun talking to him as I had with my friend tadi.
She went on to say she never tells him abt her probs, her fears, etc. They dont share anything. They just eat together, watch movies together, never saying anything to each other.
I was sad, and thought about her life 30 yrs down the road:
A couple in their fifties, sitting on opposite ends of the couch, watching TV with this uncomfortable, heavy silence hanging in the air. No lively banter, no laughter, just two ppl sitting together. Just enduring, bearing through the day together.
That’s not the life I want.
I want to find someone who shares the same fundamental principles with me. I want to be with my best friend who can lift my spirits and makes me even happier when i think life cant get any better. I want to be with the one that loves me, NOT IN SPITE of my differences, but because of them. I want to marry the one that makes me happy, comfortable and so at ease that I sleep with no worries and wake up with a smile on my face.
He could be a simple guy, with a bit of a belly, with japanese slippers and unkept hair, that has a beaten up kancil tht screeeeches when he drives it, with not even two pennies to rub together. I dont care, as long as he is the right one for me. (and is smart and hardworking so he can work his way through poverty-hehe)
When i find such a person, i will settle down. I will say yes. I will be so loyal to you. Learn to cook for you. Wipe your tears for you. Leave my corporate career and stay home for you. Pack my bags leave my comfortable house and live in a run-dwn flat for you. Be whatever you want me to.
Be your Siti Khadijah for you.
Until i meet such person, I will stay here. I will live my life, do my job, take care of my family and take each day as it comes. I do not want to pursue this man at every corner and turn. I truly believe that Allah has this man for me, somewhere, and he is waiting for me as patiently as i am waiting for him.
So pls, no more questions. No more negative remarks, like “whts wrong with you? just pick one! why so memilih! nanti tua org dah tak nak baru tahu.”
I have my reasons for being unattached: I am waiting for the man that Allah has chosen for me.
And i think that is a good reason.